🗣️ 3 changes you should do in your daily communication
Business Marketing with Nika
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The way you use words and how you think about yourself and your goals can influence your perception as well as others' perception towards you.
🔄 Try to make these 3 swaps:
1️⃣ BUT → AND
– When you give someone feedback, you say something good in the first part and then add a "BUT", automatically erasing everything good you've said so far. "BUT" is usually followed by bad things.
– Try to compose things the way you use "AND".
– E. g. Highlight what you like about the idea "AND" what could be done better.
2️⃣ NO → NOT YET
– Don't put good deals on the backburner completely. Maybe the offer is just not well-timed yet. Instead of a complete "NO", say "NOT YET".
– You leave the door open for the future.
3️⃣ SORRY → THANK YOU
– Instead of regret, express gratitude.
– Sorry evokes a state of humiliation, while "to be thankful" is a state of understanding.
What are your swaps?
I am thinking about writing a newsletter on this topic. Should I?
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Mary Kathryn Johnson@mkj
Anxiety --> Gratitude
That's my go to right now.
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If you say. Your wrong. Instead say. Your argument is wrong 😏. Fight the argument not the person. 😸
Hurrayy
Not yet! :D
And good insights! Thank you!
Hurrayy
@busmark_w_nika jk I love these! I've implemented some of these already. But should print it and hang on the wall next to my pc :)
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These are fantastic. Thank you Nika. I especially like #1. I always try to not use the word but 🤣
No buts!
This is a great newsletter topic! Communicating clearly and confidently is important. The words we use can determine other people's perceptions of us. I really like #3 and have been doing that lately. Not a swap, but I've been trying to reduce my use of "actually", "just", and "I think." Wes Kao has a great newsletter on Substack and recently covered this topic. It would be great to get your insights as well.
This is a very helpful tip 🤩, thanks for sharing Nika ✨
I would add changing "I am" to "I feel", especially addressing negative emotions, which is also important in communication with oneself. It highlights that it is a temporary, often subjective state, that doesn't define you as a person, at the same time validating your current emotions.